You might have clicked on this expecting a miracle, that after reading this article you would know the secret to getting that hot bod, great grades, amazing relationships and all the friends that you can ask for and get it straight away. I’m here to tell you that unfortunately there is no miracle way to get what we want, whenever we want. This post is not about getting fast results but to create change that stays for the rest of our lives.
From my past experiences, when we give in to quick fixes, it often does us more harm than good. I have found that I could never complete a diet or gain more friends after using a quick fix. I realised that the reason why I could never follow these was that I would have to deny a part of myself in order to make myself look better, look prettier and be friendlier. I would need to cut out all the things that I things that I enjoy, such as the foods that I ate, the hobbies that I enjoy and other things that I love completely.
Depriving ourselves in order to achieve results in the short term never works and things can backfire when we do. What we need to do in order to create change is to put in effort bit by bit every day to create positive change in the long term. For long-term change to stick, we need to be patient and willing to reinforce those habits each day. And that comes to my tip today.
My tip for today is that the fastest way to grow, in whatever we do, is to set challenges for ourselves.
Challenges can be whatever you want them to be. You can set the difficulty, measure your progress and personalise it to how you’d want it to be. By placing challenges on ourselves, we grow from the struggle and we will not see it as hard work as we aren’t depriving ourselves of anything. We need to be realistic for ourselves, identify the problem that we’d like to solve and continually work on it by approaching it in a way that is enjoyable and making us feel that change is not an impossible task.
Challenges are a great way to reinforce habits and allow us to work on any areas that we want to improve in our lives. If you want to lose weight, challenge yourself to eat more vegetables and walking every day. If you want to learn a new skill, challenge yourself to do something to learn that skill every day. Challenges can be as enjoyable as you want them to be and can be done at your own pace. Life is one long marathon and it is the challenges that we face along the way that build us!
I hope this helps and that this encourages you to identify an area in your life you’d like to improve on and take steps to change!
*Side Note: As of writing this I have decided to challenge myself and will be taking part in this months art challenge, MerMay on Tumblr! I have made my own prompts list and decided to stick with that. The aim of the challenge is to draw Mermaids every day with a design around the prompt of the day! I shall be posting my end results at the end of the month!
*Side Note: I have also started a fandom zine on Tumblr and in the middle of organizing it. I have taken this as a challenge on my organization, project management and time management skills. Plus, it feels amazing to contributing to one of my fandoms in a big way! If anyone is interested in reading about it I will write an article about the zine. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
The Question Of The Post: What are your thoughts on the post? What are some of the things that you do to make changes in your life?
Immediately after posting my first post, I already wanted to post another one. And Another one. I thought, this is so exciting, I can’t wait to post more!
It took everything I had in me to stop myself from doing just that. Its a terrible habit of mine to start so many projects, get excited about all my ideas and start a lot of work… and never finish any of them. I have a lot of art projects and designs that never make it to my Tumblr blog because, in the middle of it, I would feel so overwhelmed and stressed out that I would lose the energy to continue the project. Sometimes the burnout gets to the point that I’d hit an art slump and the sight of a pencil and a clean sheet of paper would just make me want to stop altogether.
Reflecting back on the past two years I’ve had with my art blog, I’d like to think that that habit is the reason why I struggled so much with making art. I personally placed myself under pressure to produce so much content in so little time. When I started writing, I thought to myself that I would never let that happen again. It took me everything I had just to prevent myself from going on a post-binge.
It’s so easy to get addicted to instant gratification, which I think is the drug of the 21st century. Instead of valuing the experience and the fun in everything we do, we start reducing everything to receiving likes. On Tumblr, I was so obsessed with getting reblogs to get my work out there that I would beat myself up whenever one piece of art (which would take me about 2 hours to up to 8 hours total to finish) wouldn’t receive the likes and reblogs that I thought it would get. I was so caught up in all of it that I didn’t notice the growth I had as an artist.
On Tumblr, I’d come across art blogs that would quit after a week, a month or even a year because their art wouldn’t receive the likes and reblogs that they were hoping for. I think now, with social media, we’ve begun to tie our value in everything we do base on the reaction of others. We only do something if we’re the best at it and if we get a ton of ‘likes’ from it.
Now with writing again, I’ve decided to stop basing the growth of my blogs on likes, views and follows (I am however very grateful for all of the followers that I have so far! Thank you for being with me on my journey 😀 ). I’m basing my growth on the new habits that I adopt, the new things that I experience and my overall growth as a person.
To do all of that, blogging has taught me an important lesson: patience.
By adopting patience in my blogging, I feel that it’s the one virtue that’s been helping me calm down and enjoy everything at my own pace. There are times when I get too excited but when I do, I just take a step back in order to keep excited from posting too much all at once.
Here are some tips that I currently use to avoid burning out with writing but I think it can be applied to anything!
Whatever You Decide To Do, Do It For Yourself
Whenever I start out with anything, it would always be to make myself happy. However, my reasons can get muddled up along the way and I would fall into the trap of instant gratification.
To prevent burning out, we must constantly remind ourselves that first and foremost, we picked up blogging (or anything really!) for ourselves and to stick to that! We all started out with a goal in mind and we didn’t really care about getting tons of followers or likes. As a blogger, I just wanted to share my journey of becoming proactive with everyone, and to have a public display of accountability. I hope to stay this way throughout my blogging journey! If not, I will always come back to read this post 🙂
Whenever you feel that you’re starting to get burned out, think back on the time when you started blogging. Remembering the reason why you started and that you write for yourself will bring in the joy and excitement again!
Have Patience And Aim For Consistency
At the height of my obsession on Tumblr, I would be posting three times a day at most. It was so stressful and I felt that the quality of my work suffered for it. I finally had enough living this way and stopped in December and only recently started drawing again earlier this month.
Starting fresh, blogging has taught me to pace myself. Set a schedule for writing and aim for that! Being consistent and making quality is better than having an erratic schedule and posting so much in one go. Aim for writing quality and post at least, twice a week or whatever suits you! As long as your schedule fits in with your time and is sustainable you can regulate your blog!
Use Your Energy Wisely
When I published my first post, I was on a writing high because it felt so good to have finally started. I wanted to post so much all at once to keep experiencing that high.
After writing several drafts, I realise now that instead of aiming to just finish one post and to keep going, a better use of my writing high is to jot down ideas and start a lot of posts but just keep them unfinished. I’ve heard some bloggers use batch writing, and I only do parts of batch writing to some extent but personally I just like writing a lot of drafts, saving them and when I’m finally done, scheduling them so that I don’t have to worry about writing something in one night!
Most of all, in my opinion, it’s important to have fun with yourself and what you do. Back in my teens, I did some things that I didn’t really like and only suffered for it. Now that I’m twenty, I’d like to spend my twenties doing the things that I love and having fun with myself!
If we don’t have fun with what we do, I don’t really see the point in doing it. Without fun, we can take ourselves too seriously and beat ourselves up when we don’t meet the goals that we want to achieve. By having fun, we can relax and be our best, as we have no pressure at all. Burn out can be avoided too as the idea of being stressed over something we enjoy wouldn’t occur in our minds!
So far with writing, pacing myself has helped me a lot. I’m enjoying just blogging at my own pace. As I don’t have any plans yet to monetize my blog in the near future, I’m blogging mainly to have fun, share my experiences and meet new people and make blogger friends!
I hope you can all use these tips to avoid blogging burn out! As a new blogger (at the time that I’m writing this), I’m using these tips for myself in order to keep enjoying blogging. After writing my first post, it ignited the love that I had for writing and I’ve been writing every day!
If you have any tips you’d like to suggest or just share your thoughts with the tips I’ve given, write them below in the comments!
The Question Of The Post: How do you deal with burn out? What steps do you take to overcome it?